How do we even begin to describe the 24 July 2016 and how you were there for us every step of the way. We had called you at 5am and within an hour you were at our house. You were there to witness the most life changing experience of our lives, you witnessed Ethan join the world and take his first breath, you were there to see us over flowing with emotion and the transition of us becoming parents.
(Thanks for capturing the cord cutting and some other gorgeous photos for us!!!)
Holding the bucket for me from the backseat of the car while I was being ill on the way to the hospital, to fetching and bringing things from the car so Martin could stay with me, to rubbing my back and holding my hands. I really believe that people project emotions onto others and on that day, your calmness and inner strength by just being in the room, I think contributed to me having the wonderful birth I had. Living an expat life without friends and family nearby can be quite isolating and lonely. Having you there with me was like having a lifelong friend or a sister by my side.
I don’t think I every told you why we wanted you as our Doula. I had already made my decision that day Martin and I met you at Reem island La Brioche briefly for a chat. It was because I appreciated the way you protected me from your story, only hinting to the fact that you had a difficult experience, but managed to get through it unmedicated. I felt that if I had you by my side, having gone through whatever your hard experience was, that you’d be able to support me though my experience. I felt like you were an inspiration, in the sense that if you could, then so could I. It was one of the first moments I felt that my wish of having an unmedicated birth could be a reality, having met someone who did it. We did have another choice of a doula who we met with; she was friendly and warm but didn’t leave me feeling the same as you did. It confirmed that I didn’t want anyone else except for you. I can’t pin point the other reason or really explain it in words, it was more than just the tone of your voice or things like that, and it was a gut feeling.
You were there for me on the most difficult day of my pregnancy, a week before he was born when we saw 2 Doctors who wanted to induce right away. You came to my house, we shared a cup of tea and you gave me the most wonderful and relaxing lavender massage to release all my frustration and tension for the day. Martin had to be at work, having you there with me and the chat we had that afternoon made me feel like I wasn’t alone. You listened to my thoughts and what had happened that day. Martin was so happy you came; he didn’t want me to be alone. Your support gave me strength and I will never forget sitting on the exercise ball smelling the lavender while relaxing. You seemed to know just what I needed.
That morning for me is blur. I laugh now at the suitcase filled with the TRX, candles, massage oil, birthing ball, 30+ hypnobirthing affirmation pictures, dates, nuts, crackers, lollipops, headphones and laptop with music and video visualisations. All I needed there was you and Martin (and my coconut water).
A day after the birth, your familiar face in a sea of strange faces in the hospital was most welcome, and the smoothie you brought me, was such a lovely and thoughtful gift filled with good nutrients my body needed.
I don’t feel our relationship will ever come to an “end”, the part you played in the birth of our son will always stay with us. You are part his journey and life story. A thousand thank you’s would never be enough for us to express how grateful we are to you. Frances July 2016 (Abu Dhabi)
We absolutely loved our doula, and hopefully can answer all the questions here. We looked for a doula, as we wanted a more natural birth and were far away from family and loved ones. The idea of a nurturing, educated third party to help us navigate the immensity of this new situation was very appealing. We interviewed a few candidates and chose Marliyne because of her fantastic positive spirit, organization, knowledge, confidence, and forthrightness. During my pregnancy she checked in on me frequently either personally or via phone and was always available if I needed any question answered.
Unfortunately due to unexpected circumstances I had to have an emergency c-section due to a severe bacterial infection, and even though Marilyne did not participate in the birth in the way she and we thought originally, she was an integral part in my recovery and offered us guidance and support to breastfeed and in many other ways during the most terrifying experience of our lives. She came daily to check on us and brought us smoothies and mostly her calm, and kind prescense which is all we really needed at that time. She will always be part of our story and we are so grateful to her. Cynthia, Adraino, and baby Zoe Silva (Abu Dhabi)
We thought it was a good idea to have someone with us before, during and after the birth who had some experience.
When Marilyne came and we met with her we thougth she would be the right person to do this with us. We felt comfortable around her. She helped us with a birth plan and we discussed with her what we would like and would not like about giving birth in a hospital here in the UAE. It also helped that she knew our doctor and had a couple of good experiences with her. She was very warm and reassuring to us first time parents. We felt being in safe and expert hands. She helped us decide when was the right time to go to the hospital, she stayed with us and was calm and it was great for me to be able to talk to her. She created a comfortable atmosphere in the hospital room and it felt comforting to have her around.
Marilyne came and we talked at length about the birth exprerience which was great for me. I needed to go through it again. She would also give very helpful insights and ideas into how to deal with our newborn.
The listening and being understood part was very helpful and great for me. I felt Marilyne was capable of a lot of empathy.She has been a good motivator during labor. She helped with the breathing and in dealing with the contraction pain. She was a great emotional support. Sandra September 2016 (Abu Dhabi)